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Let’s admit it. Motherhood is tough. More often than not, it leaves you wondering if you are a worthy mother at all. To make matters worse, society judges all mothers and makes their already difficult life unbearable. Moms are constantly criticized for our life-choices and for the way we choose to raise our kids. I say, enough!
If you are a mommy, or soon to be, you probably know what a unicorn mom is. For those who don’t know, here is what it means:
A unicorn mom is one who knows she isn’t perfect and she is okay with it.
Urban dictionary actually has a bit more of a colorful definition if you want to check that out!
In other words, she doesn’t care what other people think about her. She is confident and knows she doesn’t have to be perfect to be a good mom.
I don’t know what society thinks about a unicorn mom, but I, for sure, believe that there are plenty of reasons to be one.
Reason 1 to Be a Unicorn Mom: Kids Need Happy Moms
As much as we try to believe that kids need perfect moms, it is not true. Kids need happy moms. Happy moms allow them to grow well. Happiness is contagious and spreads from moms to their children.
Unicorn moms are happy moms. They don’t fret or stress over catering to the society’s standards of motherhood. They focus on what makes them happy and raise their kids to do the same.
By not worrying about societal standards, unicorn moms can raise their kids the way THEY want to. They make their children’s childhood memorable and lay a strong foundation for their future.
Happy kids make happy individuals who extend their happiness in everything they do. Happy individuals are more likely to be loved by others and succeed in life. A unicorn mom can have a positive effect on the child’s future.
Reason 2: Unicorn Moms Make the Most of Life
Unlike perfectionist moms who are constantly worrying about ways to “fit in” or blend with societal norms, unicorn moms actually enjoy life. They indulge in things that they enjoy. In doing so, they also allow her children to identify things that make them happy.
Children raised in such an environment know how to make the most of life in all circumstances. Unicorn moms make great role models because they show their kids that happiness lies in the core of everything else and that they should enjoy whatever they do. After all, isn’t happiness the most important thing in life?
Reason 3: Unicorn Moms are Fun to be Around
You wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who is grumpy and always finding faults right? Children are the same. They enjoy being with someone who is fun to be with, happy and cordial. A unicorn mom is loved by her kids because they feel comfortable around her.
Would you rather be a disciplinarian and feared mother? Being friends with your children is important. They should feel connected with you and be able to discuss their concerns without the fear of being judged.
What About Discipline?
Of course, I’m not saying that a unicorn mom doesn’t discipline her kids or get angry or upset with them. You see, that is the beauty of it all. You don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes kids are going to push you to the point that they get yelled out. Sometimes you will need to discipline them. It happens, that’s motherhood. As a unicorn mom, you aren’t afraid to be judged for it.
Becoming a Unicorn Mom
When I was pregnant with my daughter I wanted to learn everything and do everything that I thought was perfect. I wanted the seemingly perfect life where I stayed home with my baby while her dad went to work. I wanted to be able to volunteer to be a room mom or pick her up and go for ice cream after school.
None of that ever materialized and, at some points, I felt like I failed her. A few years ago my whole perception of motherhood shifted. I looked at my kid and just went WOW, in spite of all my perceived failings she’s a pretty darn good kid!
I realized I didn’t need to be perfect, I just needed to be me. I’m grateful to have figured this out before I became a single mom. In fact, it was that realization that allowed me to finally take the steps to separate from her dad. I knew that I didn’t need to stay in a bad relationship to fit the societal mold.
In doing so, I made life better for me and for her. Her dad and I work together to make sure she has time with both of us and she gets to live in an environment where everybody thrives. It’s a win, win.
Now, of course, I’m not saying that being a unicorn mom means being single. Just that you may find that your self-confidence and willingness to make your own decisions in spite of what you perceive others may want you to do, makes you one heck of a unicorn mom.
What Reason Do You Have For Becoming a Unicorn Mom?
In striving to be a unicorn mom it isn’t the label we are looking for. We’re looking to find and relish in the joy of motherhood. You see, unicorn moms are not only happier but also more successful in raising happy kids.
Their life may not be perfect, but they make the most of every situation in life without any stress. In doing so, they teach their children to be more confident and make them more capable of handling life-struggles. It is no surprise that the trend of being a unicorn mom is gaining importance.
When are you going to take the plunge? Are you a unicorn mom?